For all you ladies out there, you can still achieve that "O" face through anal action because, according to Dr. Van Kirk, "two inches on the upper wall for women is where you'll find the glands. Some women refer to it as an anal orgasm," she continues.
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I first wondered about how to prepare for anal sex when I was in college. I was 21, an age when everything is sort of do-or-die, especially regarding love. I had a couple of friends who had tried anal sex, but I judged them ruthlessly for it. Anal sex was something I decided I would just never, ever do.
I decided I never wanted to be in that situation again—so badly wanting to give a sexual partner something they want me to give them, but absolutely unable to. Or that you have to be some sort of superhuman or freak to enjoy it. A big part of fisting is intuition and instinct.
In fact, that very possibility might explain why something like 60 percent of the adult population has never once, in our entire boring little lives, dared to have anal sex, let alone place our tongue, however gingerly, on or about the butt hole of another person. I get that. And for straight men, the numbers are even smaller.
Which is a good thing! Women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex.
There's a sexual conundrum out there, one no one talks about. In general, girls love to have their asses eaten. And, in general, men have no idea how to do it.
It wasn't that long ago that anal sex was totally taboo. A punch line. For porn stars and gay dudes only.